Well, here's the final outcome. Full width Dana 60's with HMMWV two piece double beadlock wheels with 7" backspacing. I think it came out just about perfect, both functionally and appearance-wise , not too wide and not too narrow.
Dodge front (2" narrower than Ford or Chevy) with Chevy outers, and Ford rear. Only downside is the front hubs stick out pretty far with that much backspacing. They've taken a licking, but so far are still ticking.
With the Bushwacker cut-out 6" wide flares, we were able to get it inspected, so it's street legal in addtion to being VERY trail worthy.
